Shin Dokokin Kuskure ne?
George IV, Sarauniya Isabella, John Donne, Sir Robert Dudley, William Wycherley, Prince Albert Victor, Theodore Beza, Robert da Elizabeth Barrett Browning, Mae West, Brandy, da kuma Janet Jackson sune 'yan kaɗan a cikin tarihin da suka yi auren asiri.
Yau, ma'aurata da dama, ko da maras sanarwa, suna da auren asiri. Kuna iya samun tambayoyi masu yawa game da wannan tsari kuma me ya sa hakan ya faru.
Ga yadda kuma me yasa ma'aurata zasu iya sake yin aure a gaban iyalin su da abokai ko da bayan da aka sake yin bikin auren wata doka a wani lokaci a lokaci.
Mene Ne "Auren Asirin"?
Ma'aurata da yawa a cikin shekaru daban-daban suna da auren asiri saboda dalilai daban-daban. Akwai nau'o'i iri-iri na asiri.
- Ƙungiyar sirri ta sirri shine aure wanda ba a bayyana ga iyali da abokai ba.
- Ana yin auren asirin shari'a a gaban alƙali, a cikin kotu na kotu. Irin wannan aure an yarda a wasu fursunoni a cikin yanayi na musamman, amma ba a duk wuraren ba.
- A Michigan , a shekarar 1897, an amince da auren asiri. Idan ma'aurata suna buƙatar auren asiri bayan an yi bikin ne, to amma jami'in bai dawo da takardar shaidar ba, amma ba a rubuta rikodin ba, sai dai rikodin mai shari'a, kuma an ajiye fayil din.
- A California , idan kun zauna tare a matsayin miji da matar, za ku iya neman takardar shaidar sirri. Wannan yana nufin babu wani labarin jama'a game da aurenku.
Muna Bukatar Lasisin Aure na Biyu
"Abokan auren da nake so in yi aure kafin mu yi bikin auren babban bikin aurenmu. Dole ne mu sami lasisin aure na biyu kafin mu shirya babban bikin aure?" Ba mu son kowa ya sani mun riga mun yi aure. "
A'a, ba ku buƙatar samun lasisin aure na biyu.
A gaskiya ma, a mafi yawan wuraren, lasisi na biyu ba zai zama doka bane.
Ya kamata ku bari mai gabatar da shiri na bikin aure ku san cewa ku riga ku auri. Wasu ma'aurata sukan shirya saduwa tare da mai zaman kansa a gida na 'yan mintoci kaɗan bayan bikin aure don haka baƙi zasuyi tunanin cewa suna shiga takardar shaidar aure .
A Jihar New York , idan wani jami'in yana buƙatar lasisi na aure , wata ma'aurata da suka rigaya sun yarda da aure sun nemi takardar izini na biyu ko na gaba daga garin ko gari inda suka yi aure.
Me yasa ma'auratan suna so suyi aure?
Yawancin ma'aurata suna so su sami auren asiri saboda matsalolin shari'a da / ko kudi. Akwai dalilai masu yawa don yin auren sirri kamar yadda ma'aurata suke aure a ɓoye. Ga wasu dalilai masu yawa:
- Matsayin shigarwa na abokin tarayya yana cikin gungumen azaba
- An shirya bikin auren makoma kuma ka'idodin yin hakan shine kalubale
- Kuna iya amincewar iyali game da zabi na matar ko tunanin daya ko duka biyu kima ya yi aure
- Wasan wasan kwaikwayo game da shiryawa
- Bukatun mutum
Mun yi auren sirri na shekara guda. Yanzu muna so muyi Bikin aure. Shin Wannan Daidai?
Tabbatar shi ne. Ma'aurata da dama suna so su tabbatar da ƙaunar juna ga iyalin da abokai.
Suna kuma son masu ƙaunar da su halarci bikin.
Ya kamata mu bari mutane su halarci bikin na biyu da sanin cewa mun riga mun yi aure?
Wannan gaskiya ne ga ku biyu. Idan kun yanke shawara don bari bannar bikin aure ku san matsayinku na aure, zai zama daidai ya ce haka akan gayyatarku na bikin aure.
- Alal misali: Ranar 2 ga watan Janairu, mun yi aure da juna a wani biki. Don Allah a haɗuwa da mu don mu nuna soyayya ga juna kafin iyali, abokai, da Allah.
Akwai dalilai masu yawa don ma'aurata su yi aure a ɓoye. Har ila yau, yana da kyau don samun wani bikin, bikin aure, bikin aure ko kuma na al'ada don girmama aurenku. Ba ku buƙatar uzuri ko gaskatawa don yin haka!
* Mataki na ashirin da Marni Feuerman ya sabunta